{"id":10714,"date":"2026-03-03T20:46:12","date_gmt":"2026-03-03T20:46:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/?p=10714"},"modified":"2026-03-03T20:46:12","modified_gmt":"2026-03-03T20:46:12","slug":"my-5-year-old-asked-why-mr-tom-only-comes-at-night-when-im-asleep-i-dont-know-any-toms-so-i-set-up-a-camera-in-her-room-and-waited","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/?p=10714","title":{"rendered":"My 5-Year-Old Asked Why &#8216;Mr. Tom&#8217; Only Comes at Night When I&#8217;m Asleep \u2013 I Don&#8217;t Know Any Toms, So I Set Up a Camera in Her Room and Waited"},"content":{"rendered":"<p data-start=\"155\" data-end=\"190\">It started casually, over cereal.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"192\" data-end=\"256\">\u201cMy friend Mr. Tom says you work too much, Mommy,\u201d Ellie said.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"258\" data-end=\"285\">\u201cWho\u2019s Mr. Tom?\u201d I asked.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"287\" data-end=\"338\">\u201cHe checks on me,\u201d she replied, matter-of-factly.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"340\" data-end=\"425\">I assumed an imaginary friend\u2014her world is full of them. That was my first mistake.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"427\" data-end=\"521\">A week later, brushing her hair, she asked, \u201cWhy does Mr. Tom only come when you\u2019re asleep?\u201d<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"523\" data-end=\"556\">Cold dread settled in my chest.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"558\" data-end=\"642\">\u201cHe\u2019s old. Smells like the garage. Walks slow. He says not to wake you,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"644\" data-end=\"801\">That night, I set up a camera. At 2:13 a.m., my phone buzzed. Grainy footage showed Ellie talking softly to a tall, stooped figure pressed near her window.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"803\" data-end=\"852\">I burst in. \u201cMommy! You scared him!\u201d she cried.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"854\" data-end=\"1042\">Outside, the figure moved across the yard. Benjamin\u2014my father-in-law, recently diagnosed with stage four cancer\u2014had been trying to connect with his granddaughter without frightening her.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"1044\" data-end=\"1070\">Ellie named him Mr. Tom.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"1072\" data-end=\"1183\">I realized the true horror wasn\u2019t the shadow\u2014it was nearly destroying a dying man\u2019s love for his granddaughter.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"mh-excerpt\"><p>It started casually, over cereal. \u201cMy friend Mr. Tom says you work too much, Mommy,\u201d Ellie said. \u201cWho\u2019s Mr. Tom?\u201d I asked. \u201cHe checks on <a class=\"mh-excerpt-more\" href=\"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/?p=10714\" title=\"My 5-Year-Old Asked Why &#8216;Mr. Tom&#8217; Only Comes at Night When I&#8217;m Asleep \u2013 I Don&#8217;t Know Any Toms, So I Set Up a Camera in Her Room and Waited\">[&#8230;]<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10715,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10714","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10714","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=10714"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10714\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10716,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10714\/revisions\/10716"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/10715"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=10714"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=10714"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=10714"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}