{"id":2917,"date":"2025-05-31T21:48:07","date_gmt":"2025-05-31T21:48:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/?p=2917"},"modified":"2025-05-31T21:48:07","modified_gmt":"2025-05-31T21:48:07","slug":"my-daughter-mentioned-her-other-mom-and-dad-i-wasnt-ready-for-what-came-next","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/?p=2917","title":{"rendered":"My Daughter Mentioned \u2018Her Other Mom and Dad\u2019\u2014I Wasn\u2019t Ready for What Came Next"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>Driving home from preschool, she said it.<\/p>\n<p>Shoes off, fruit snack on leggings, staring out the window:<br \/>\n\u201cMom, Lizzie says you\u2019re the evil one. She\u2019s the kind mom.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>My grip tightened, but I stayed calm.<\/p>\n<p>Later, at my mom\u2019s, I checked the nanny cam I\u2019d hidden months ago.<\/p>\n<p>There it was\u2014Lizzie on my couch, Daniel\u2019s hand on her arm, a kiss on her temple.<\/p>\n<p>Not a shock, but it still hit hard.<\/p>\n<p>No yelling. I took screenshots, printed them, called a lawyer.<\/p>\n<p>Two days later, Daniel got the envelope. He called\u2014I hung up.<br \/>\nNo drama, no custody fight. Quick divorce.<\/p>\n<p>I let him go. Let Tess love who she loved, even if it hurt.<\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t cry until the beach, when Tess said,<br \/>\n\u201cI miss them\u2026 but I think I love you the most.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Tears came\u2014not from anger, but quiet survival.<\/p>\n<p>Later, Lizzie invited me to Tess\u2019s birthday. I went, for Tess.<br \/>\nWhen she said she loved Tess like her own, I asked,<br \/>\n\u201cThen why did she call me evil?\u201d<br \/>\nShe had no answer. I didn\u2019t need one.<\/p>\n<p>That night, Tess curled beside me with seashells.<br \/>\n\u201cDid you cry after I fell asleep?\u201d<br \/>\n\u201cYes, baby.\u201d<br \/>\n\u201cHappy or sad?\u201d<br \/>\n\u201cBoth.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Now a photo sits on our mantle\u2014me, Tess, and my mom at the beach.<br \/>\nWindblown. Barefoot. Whole.<br \/>\nI didn\u2019t fall apart. I stood up. And Tess ran to me first.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"mh-excerpt\"><p>&nbsp; Driving home from preschool, she said it. Shoes off, fruit snack on leggings, staring out the window: \u201cMom, Lizzie says you\u2019re the evil one. <a class=\"mh-excerpt-more\" href=\"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/?p=2917\" title=\"My Daughter Mentioned \u2018Her Other Mom and Dad\u2019\u2014I Wasn\u2019t Ready for What Came Next\">[&#8230;]<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2918,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2917","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2917","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2917"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2917\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2919,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2917\/revisions\/2919"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2918"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2917"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2917"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2917"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}