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A 34-year-old man is married to his 35-year-old, high\u2011earning wife (about $160K\/year). They\u2019ve been together eight years; for the past five, she\u2019s been the primary breadwinner. He works irregular freelance gigs that bring in $800\u20131,000 per month and helps around the house and emotionally.<\/p>\n
Her parents, now in their mid\u201160s, are aging and need financial and practical support. She\u2019s paid for home repairs, medication, even a car, and took time off to care for them. Meanwhile, his retired, modest\u2011means parents have started feeling neglected\u2014his mom asked if his wife loved her grandchildren less.<\/p>\n
He suggested she should support his parents similarly\u2014roof repairs or a vacation\u2014but she set a firm boundary. She told him to \u201cstep up\u201d and take responsibility for his family, and plans to separate their finances: she handles her money, he handles his.<\/p>\n
He feels betrayed, believing marriage means sharing everything\u2014money, responsibilities, and support for both families. She counters that equality means equal contribution, and she refuses to keep funding his sense of guilt.<\/p>\n
He insists he\u2019s not lazy, just still \u201cfinding his path,\u201d and promises he\u2019ll remember how she treated him once he succeeds. He\u2019s asking: \u201cAm I wrong to expect equal support for my parents? Isn\u2019t marriage about being a team?\u201d<\/p>\n
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