{"id":818,"date":"2025-03-05T20:54:11","date_gmt":"2025-03-05T20:54:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/?p=818"},"modified":"2025-03-05T20:54:11","modified_gmt":"2025-03-05T20:54:11","slug":"my-birth-family-contacted-me-after-31-years-with-an-outrageous-request-am-i-wrong-for-how-i-reacted-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/?p=818","title":{"rendered":"My Birth Family Contacted Me After 31 Years with an Outrageous Request \u2014 Am I Wrong for How I Reacted?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This all started one Tuesday night when my fianc\u00e9e, Vivianne, and I were talking about having kids. The idea sounded great, but I worried about my medical history, having been adopted and knowing little about my biological family. To find out more, I ordered a 23andMe kit. When the results came back, I accidentally made my DNA available to anyone who matched. Soon after, I received messages from people claiming to be my biological family. At first, I ignored them, but they kept sending guilt-tripping messages, and soon they found my personal details.<\/p>\n<p>Despite my desire to shut them out, I eventually took a call from Angela, who claimed my birth mother was sick and needed a liver transplant. They begged me to help, but I was skeptical. I agreed to meet them at a coffee shop, where I learned that none of her children had tested as a match. They gave weak excuses for why they couldn&#8217;t help. After a heated exchange, I made it clear I wanted nothing to do with them and wouldn&#8217;t save their mother. I walked out, telling Vivianne everything. She supported my decision, knowing I&#8217;d do anything for the mother who raised me. I deleted my 23andMe profile, wiped my social media, and changed my number, hoping they&#8217;d leave me alone for good.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"mh-excerpt\"><p>This all started one Tuesday night when my fianc\u00e9e, Vivianne, and I were talking about having kids. The idea sounded great, but I worried about <a class=\"mh-excerpt-more\" href=\"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/?p=818\" title=\"My Birth Family Contacted Me After 31 Years with an Outrageous Request \u2014 Am I Wrong for How I Reacted?\">[&#8230;]<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":819,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-818","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/818","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=818"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/818\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":820,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/818\/revisions\/820"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/819"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=818"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=818"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=818"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}