{"id":886,"date":"2025-03-11T20:39:26","date_gmt":"2025-03-11T20:39:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/?p=886"},"modified":"2025-03-11T20:39:26","modified_gmt":"2025-03-11T20:39:26","slug":"my-sister-erin-gave-up-her-foster-daughter-after-having-a-biological-son-if-only-i-knew-shed-answer-for-it-immediately-we-hadnt-seen-erin-in-months-when-she-had-a-baby-boy-the-family-t","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/?p=886","title":{"rendered":"My sister Erin gave up her foster daughter after having a biological son\u2014if only I knew she&#8217;d answer for it immediately.  We hadn&#8217;t seen Erin in months. When she had a baby boy, the family traveled to celebrate, and I was excited to see both the newborn and my goddaughter, Lily.  But Lily wasn&#8217;t there.  &#8220;Where&#8217;s Lily?&#8221; I asked.  Erin froze, glanced at her boyfriend, then shrugged. &#8220;Oh, I gave her back.&#8221;  I was stunned. &#8220;You\u2014what?&#8221;  &#8220;I always wanted a boy. Now I have one. Why would I need a daughter?&#8221;  I felt sick. &#8220;You GAVE HER BACK?! She&#8217;s a child, not a return item!&#8221;  She rolled her eyes. &#8220;Relax. She wasn\u2019t really mine. Just\u2026 temporary.&#8221;  I snapped. &#8220;TEMPORARY?! She called you Mom, and you threw her away as soon as you had your &#8216;real&#8217; kid?!&#8221;  Erin scoffed. &#8220;She was a foster kid, okay?&#8221;  I was shaking with rage when, suddenly, there were sharp knocks on the door.\ud83d\udc47\ud83d\udc47"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>There are moments that break you. For me, it was hearing my sister say, \u201cI gave her back,\u201d about her adopted daughter, Lily.<\/p>\n<p>We hadn\u2019t seen Erin in months, but when I visited after she had a baby boy, the yard was different, and Lily\u2019s toys were gone. When I asked where Lily was, Erin said, \u201cI gave her back.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Confused, I asked, \u201cWhat do you mean?\u201d Erin explained, \u201cI always wanted to be a boy mom. I don\u2019t need a daughter now. Lily wasn\u2019t really mine.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I was stunned. \u201cShe was a child, not a toy you return,\u201d I snapped. Erin dismissed me, saying, \u201cNow Noah needs all my attention.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Soon after, Child Protective Services arrived to investigate Erin\u2019s adoption of Lily. Weeks later, I found Lily still in foster care and began the process to bring her home. Three months later, I was granted supervised visits. When I saw Lily, she hesitantly called me \u201cAuntie Angie.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI\u2019ve made a special room for you,\u201d I promised, \u201cand I\u2019ll never leave you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Months later, Lily officially became mine. We worked through her trauma with love and therapy. Erin\u2019s investigation ended without Noah being removed, but she had to take parenting classes.<\/p>\n<p>As for me, I got everything I wanted. Lily, now six, is safe, happy, and surrounded by family. Sometimes, the family you fight for is the one that truly matters.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"mh-excerpt\"><p>There are moments that break you. For me, it was hearing my sister say, \u201cI gave her back,\u201d about her adopted daughter, Lily. We hadn\u2019t <a class=\"mh-excerpt-more\" href=\"https:\/\/thepatswalk.com\/?p=886\" title=\"My sister Erin gave up her foster daughter after having a biological son\u2014if only I knew she&#8217;d answer for it immediately.  We hadn&#8217;t seen Erin in months. When she had a baby boy, the family traveled to celebrate, and I was excited to see both the newborn and my goddaughter, Lily.  But Lily wasn&#8217;t there.  &#8220;Where&#8217;s Lily?&#8221; I asked.  Erin froze, glanced at her boyfriend, then shrugged. &#8220;Oh, I gave her back.&#8221;  I was stunned. &#8220;You\u2014what?&#8221;  &#8220;I always wanted a boy. Now I have one. Why would I need a daughter?&#8221;  I felt sick. &#8220;You GAVE HER BACK?! She&#8217;s a child, not a return item!&#8221;  She rolled her eyes. &#8220;Relax. She wasn\u2019t really mine. Just\u2026 temporary.&#8221;  I snapped. &#8220;TEMPORARY?! 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