My younger brother has always been spoiled. I first thought it was because he was the baby, but as I got older, I realized it was favoritism.
As an adult it only worsened. My parents never helped with my wedding or supported me with my kids, yet they’ve always helped him.
When he was 18, they asked me to buy him a car, so I did. When he lost his job and couldn’t pay rent, they asked if he could move in with me—I agreed. I helped him financially many times. Two years ago, they asked me to pay my share of his wedding, but I’d just had a baby and said no. Since then, I’ve only helped selectively.
Last week, they asked if I could watch his baby while he traveled. I refused because I already had plans and he never paid me before. I told my mom his wife should contribute or hire a sitter. My mom offered to pay, but I still refused, saying he needed to be responsible.
My sister-in-law then accused me of trying to ruin his trip and “tearing the family apart” because I was “too greedy” to watch my nephew. Now, they aren’t speaking to me.