I ended my 36-year marriage after discovering thousands of dollars missing from our account—and hotel receipts for a room in Massachusetts my husband never mentioned.
When I confronted Troy, he refused to explain. He said I was overreacting. He asked me to trust him—but gave me nothing to trust. I couldn’t live with secrets like that, so I left.
We divorced quietly. No affair ever surfaced. No explanation came.
Two years later, he died suddenly.At his funeral, his father—drunk and grieving—leaned in and said, “You don’t even know what he did for you, do you? There are things that aren’t affairs. And there are lies that don’t come from wanting someone else.”
Days later, a courier delivered a letter in Troy’s handwriting.
He had been getting medical treatment.
It wasn’t local or simple, and he was afraid that once he told me, he’d become my responsibility instead of my partner. So he paid for hotel rooms near the clinic. He moved money. He lied when I asked.
“I don’t expect forgiveness,” he wrote. “You made your decision with the truth you had.”
I sat there for a long time, realizing I hadn’t just lost him once when we divorced.
I had lost him twice.